Family Constellations

Family Constellation Therapy, developed by Bert Hellinger, is a profound therapeutic method that explores family dynamics and the impact of inherited trauma. It allows for the identification and healing of dysfunctional patterns that affect our lives and relationships.

Family Constellations are based on the idea that many of our psychological and emotional problems stem from family dynamics and transgenerational traumas. Hellinger observed that unresolved suffering and conflict can be passed down from one generation to the next, influencing the lives and health of offspring. Family Constellation Therapy allows for the revelation of these hidden patterns and provides a path of healing and reconnection with family and ancestors.

The Family Constellations Method

The method consists of a group process in which an individual (called a “client”) presents his or her problem, and the facilitator selects participants (called “representatives”) to represent family members or relevant aspects of the situation. Representatives are positioned in space to create a “constellation” that reflects relationships and family dynamics.

• The client chooses representatives for the family members and positions them in the space.
• Representatives move intuitively and express their feelings and impressions.
• The facilitator observes the dynamics and interactions between the representatives.
• Through questions and interventions, the facilitator helps to reveal hidden patterns and problems.
• The facilitator introduces healing phrases and new placements to restore balance and harmony.
• The client can notice and feel the changes, which contributes to the healing process.

Belonging, Order and Balance – Helinger’s Attributes of “LOVE” and Healing Phrases

• Accepting the reality and destiny of each family member is crucial for healing.
• Healing phrases: “I see you and accept you as you are.”, “I accept your destiny as it is.”
• Respecting order and hierarchy in the family helps to restore balance.
• Healing phrases: “You are my mother/father, and I am your child.”, “I respect your place and role in the family.”
• Healing relationships often requires forgiveness and reconciliation.
• Healing phrases: “I accept that this is how it had to be and I release you..”, “I apologize for my mistakes.”
• Constellations help to release blocked emotions and energies from the past.
• Healing phrases: “I give you back what is yours and I take back what is mine.”, “I let you carry your own burdens.”

Other healing phrases:

1. “I see you and accept you as you are.”
2. “I respect and honor your destiny.”
3. “Thank you for everything you have done for me.”
4. “I’m giving you back what’s yours and I’m taking back what’s mine.”
5. “I forgive you and I forgive myself.”
6. “I’m giving you the place you deserve in our family.”
7. “I’m here, I see you and I respect you.”

Family Constellation Therapy offers numerous benefits, including:

1. It helps to understand the source of problems and dysfunctional patterns.
2. It allows the release of inherited negative emotions and energies.
3. It improves relationships and understanding between family members.
4. It helps heal transgenerational traumas.
5. It contributes to personal development and to achieving inner balance.
6. Constellations can be used to explore family dynamics and identify the source of individual problems.
7. Individual therapy can continue with the integration of perspectives and healings obtained from group constellation sessions.
8. Family Constellations can help couples understand and resolve conflicts based on patterns inherited from their families of origin. This allows couples to develop deeper communication and a more authentic connection.
9. Group sessions allow participants to support each other and learn from each other’s experiences. The groups provide a safe and supportive environment for exploring and healing transgenerational trauma.
10. Constellations can be used to bring hidden dynamics to light and facilitate reconciliation and healing among family members. It helps to restore harmony and balance in the family system.

It should be noted that all this can only be opened and worked on in a therapeutic setting, because the Constellations work on the field of the heart, as Helinger said, and the efficiency in the constellations being the same as in the law of attraction, it is very important what is emitted and what is generated from the heart.